Emotion vs Belief
During a conversation with an employee we were discussing a
situation where I was deeply hurt by a betrayal. She kept bringing up
that I shouldn't be hurt because this person was doing what s/he
wanted and my belief really has no laws but one "stagnation is
the only sin". So religiously this person was not acting in a
sinful manner so I shouldn't have been emotionally hurt by the act of
betrayal. Her whole three hour argument with me kept putting
emotional status and religious belief as the same thing. It was like
she was forgetting that humans are a bit more complicated than that.
Yes we are animals so in an essence things could be simple, but we
have many layers that complicates things.
I was betrayed, told a lie that I was trying to trust to be the truth and found out I was a fool. My ego took a hit cause I allowed myself to be lead astray by not following my gut feelings. My Id took a much larger hit and it's the one that's causing me stress while sleeping. My Id dealing with the emotional blow is causing me to have stress and stress related emotional responses. The more it's processed on a sub-conscious level, the more my Ego can sort out the Super Ego's belief of s/he did what s/he wanted to do, it's his/her problem (not mine), there was nothing I could do about it, and I have to move on without allowing it to affect my future relationships with others.
To correlate this with the soul analogy; my soul (Id) aches from the betrayal but it's being told by my beliefs (Super Ego) that it shouldn't hurt so my conscious mind (Ego) is trying to sort the emotional response of the soul's pain and the beliefs of how things should be.
This really makes things a helluvalot more complicated than simply "religious beliefs should dictate your emotional response" ideology. Then again it's also a very simple concept, when you look at the psyche from the Freudian stand point, which is still the foremost taught branch of psychology, the emotional response is pretty far from belief. The question becomes how large and how long of a reaction will you have not if you'll have one at all. I don't care how much I believe in Free Will, I can't take a massive betrayal hit and go "good for him/her." It makes me flail in rage. After I get that part of me calmed down I can go "I hope one day that person will grow and not repeat that behaviour with someone else" but that's an extensive process through layers of emotional healing to get myself to that point. Especially since betrayal is one of the largest of my triggers.
Here's another point to ponder. If religious belief really did dictate emotions then all of those people who believe in "it's god's plan" for everything that happens should never be mad, upset or cry when a child is abused or killed. They should not be hurt if something bad happens to their relatives. Is this the majority case? No, they have those emotions until the emotions are processed in their psyche. I say majority case because I have ran across a few who do actually follow that emotionless state. Also think about the belief "s/he's in a better place now," how many say that while mourning their loved one's passing, almost everyone. It's natural to have emotions.
I was betrayed, told a lie that I was trying to trust to be the truth and found out I was a fool. My ego took a hit cause I allowed myself to be lead astray by not following my gut feelings. My Id took a much larger hit and it's the one that's causing me stress while sleeping. My Id dealing with the emotional blow is causing me to have stress and stress related emotional responses. The more it's processed on a sub-conscious level, the more my Ego can sort out the Super Ego's belief of s/he did what s/he wanted to do, it's his/her problem (not mine), there was nothing I could do about it, and I have to move on without allowing it to affect my future relationships with others.
To correlate this with the soul analogy; my soul (Id) aches from the betrayal but it's being told by my beliefs (Super Ego) that it shouldn't hurt so my conscious mind (Ego) is trying to sort the emotional response of the soul's pain and the beliefs of how things should be.
This really makes things a helluvalot more complicated than simply "religious beliefs should dictate your emotional response" ideology. Then again it's also a very simple concept, when you look at the psyche from the Freudian stand point, which is still the foremost taught branch of psychology, the emotional response is pretty far from belief. The question becomes how large and how long of a reaction will you have not if you'll have one at all. I don't care how much I believe in Free Will, I can't take a massive betrayal hit and go "good for him/her." It makes me flail in rage. After I get that part of me calmed down I can go "I hope one day that person will grow and not repeat that behaviour with someone else" but that's an extensive process through layers of emotional healing to get myself to that point. Especially since betrayal is one of the largest of my triggers.
Here's another point to ponder. If religious belief really did dictate emotions then all of those people who believe in "it's god's plan" for everything that happens should never be mad, upset or cry when a child is abused or killed. They should not be hurt if something bad happens to their relatives. Is this the majority case? No, they have those emotions until the emotions are processed in their psyche. I say majority case because I have ran across a few who do actually follow that emotionless state. Also think about the belief "s/he's in a better place now," how many say that while mourning their loved one's passing, almost everyone. It's natural to have emotions.
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